Take Control of Your Divorce

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Editorial Reviews

"When children are involved, marriage is an 'irrevocable trust' that transcends divorce. Take Control of Your Divorce is a comprehensive, eminently practical guide that will help high-conflict couples avoid needlessly acrimonious pitfalls, and build a foundation for their children to thrive. I will keep copies on hand for my clients."

--Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D., Director, The Milton H. Erickson Foundation



"An excellent resource for separated and divorced couples who are caught on the treadmill of high conflict co-parenting...practical advice to co-parents on managing their anger, learning the importance of forgiving, and learning to let go of their battles."

--Philip Stahl, Ph.D., author of Parenting After Divorce and Conducting Child Custody Evaluations: From Basic to Complex Issues



"With plenty of advice from professionals, Take Control of Your Divorce is a strong pick for anyone who doesn't want their relationship to end in hate on all fronts."

-- Wisconsin Bookwatch, March 2011

Customer Reviews

Judith Margerum, Ph.D., Jerome A. Price, M.A. and James Windell, M.A.

Judith Margerum, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and co-director of the Michigan Family Institute. Dr. Margerum received her doctorate from the University of Detroit and has over 20 years' experience working with families experiencing difficult problems. She provides professional consultation and training as well as therapy.

Jerome A. Price, M.A., is the director and founder of the Michigan Family Institute. He is an internationally known brief therapist, teacher and consultant who is widely published. He is contributing author in several books, has written numerous articles, and is author of the books Power and Compassion, The Right to Be the Grownup, and co-author of Defusing the High-Conflict Divorce. Price is an approved supervisor for the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

James Windell, M.A., is a court psychologist at the Oakland County (Michigan) Circuit Court where he conducts group therapy with adolescent delinquents and treats high-conflict divorce couples. He is the author of several parenting, medical, and criminal justice books, and is a co-author of Defusing the High-Conflict Divorce. He teaches at Wayne State University, writes a weekly parenting column for newspapers, and is the editor of The Michigan Psychologist.

Introduction

Section I: If You're Still Fighting After the Divorce Is Over, You Are Still Emotionally Married

Chapter 1 If You're Still Fighting, Then You're Stuck in a Rut!

Chapter 2 What Keeps the Conflict Alive?


Section II: Strategies to Change Yourself

Chapter 3 What Is Your Goal?

Chapter 4 Identifying Your Emotional Hot Buttons

Chapter 5 Letting Go of Your Anger

Chapter 6 Apologies and How to Use Them

Chapter 7 The Courage to Forgive (or, Forgiving Your Co-Parent Frees You)

Chapter 8 Understanding and Using Your Power Effectively

Chapter 9 Picturing Your Children: Why Do You Need a Relationship with Your Co-Parent?

Chapter 10 Creating Your Own Healing Ritual


Section III: Strategies to Change Your Co-Parent

Chapter 11 Relearning Basic Communication Techniques

Chapter 12 Communicating by Email or Text Messages

Chapter 13 Practice Makes Perfect

Chapter 14 Using a Format to Resolve Your Conflicts

Chapter 15 Making Change Happen: With or Without Your Co-Parent's Cooperation


Section IV: Special Considerations as You Continue to Try to Improve Your Communication with Your Co-Parent

Chapter 16 Improving Your Relationship with a Co-Parent with Special Needs and Problems


Section V: Wrapping It Up: You Can Be Successful Co-Parents Despite Your Conflicts

Chapter 17 Co-Parenting Successfully Despite Your Conflicts and Differences


References

Online Resources

Index