Marital Myths Revisited

Editorial Reviews

"Without a doubt, couples willing to read, examine and talk about these marital myths are more likely to build successful relationships."

--Lorraine Wincor, Psy.D.



"This important and practical book, which can be easily read in less than an hour, is recommended as required reading for those who are married, contemplating marriage or engaged in...marriage counseling"

--Cyril Franks, Ph.D., CHILD AND FAMILY BEHAVIOR THERAPY



"I've never before found a book that I could recommend to clients that approached these issues so clearly and well."

--Lillian F. Brunell, Psy.D.



"We encourage anyone married, contemplating marriage, or in the practice of marriage counselling to read this important, practical book. Dr. Lazarus has brilliantly elucidated the myths that destroy marriages... We have gained a great deal from this powerful book, both personally and professionally. We highly recommend it." --Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D., Psychiatrist, Bestselling author: MAKING PEACE WITH YOUR PAST and HOW TO SURVIVE THE LOSS OF A LOVE

--Sirah Vetesse-Bloomfield, Ph.D., Marriage Counselor



"The road to wedded happiness is strewn with myths. Here, a noted therapist reveals some of them."

--READERS DIGEST

Customer Reviews

Arnold A. Lazarus, Ph.D.

Dr. Lazarus is a Distinguished Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Rutgers University, and has also served on the faculties of Stanford University, Temple University Medical School, and Yale University. He has received numerous honors and awards, most notably the Distinguished Service Award from the American Board of Professional Psychology, special awards from the divisions of psychotherapy and clinical psychology of the American Psychological Association, and he is the first recipient of the prestigious Annual Cummings PSYCHE Award. In 1999 he received two Lifetime Achievement Awards, one from the California Psychological Association and the other from the Association for Advancement of Behavior Therapy. He has maintained a clinical practice since 1959 and has authored or co-authored 17 books and over 250 articles and chapters.

Introduction

Myth 1: Husbands and Wives Should Be Best Friends

Myth 2: Romantic Love Makes a Good Marriage

Myth 3: Extramarital Affairs Will Destroy a Marriage

Myth 4: If You Feel Guilty, Confess

Myth 5: Husbands and Wives Should Do Everything Together

Myth 6: You Have to Work at Marriage

Myth 7: A Happy Marriage Requires Total Trust

Myth 8: Good Spouses Should Make Their Partners Happy

Myth 9: In Good Marriages, Husbands and Wives "Let It All Hang Out"

Myth 10: Good Husbands Do Household Repairs; Good Wives Do the Laundry

Myth 11: Having a Child Will Improve a Bad Marriage

Myth 12: Marriage Should Be a 50-50 Partnership

Myth 13: Marriage Can Fulfill All Your Dreams

Myth 14: True Lovers Automatically Know Each Other's Thoughts and Feelings

Myth 15: An Unhappy Marriage is Better Than a Broken Home

Myth 16: A Husband's Ambition Comes Before a Wife's Career

Myth 17: If Your Spouse Wants to Leave, Hang On and Fight

Myth 18: Dead Love Can Sometimes Be Rekindled

Myth 19: Competition Between Spouses Adds Sparkle to a Marriage

Myth 20: You Should Make Your Spouse Over into "A Better Person"

Myth 21: Opposites Attract and Complement Each Other

Myth 22: Couples Should Not Reveal Personal Matters to Outsiders

Myth 23: Don't Have Sex When You're Angry

Myth 24: Be Satisfied With What You've Got ...and What Can Be Done About it

My Top Eight Tips for a Good Relationship