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Bruce Fisher, Ed.D.

Bruce Fisher, Ed.D. (1931-1998) developed the "rebuilding" model of divorce recovery nearly 25 years ago. Founder and director of the Family Relations Learning Center (Boulder, Colorado), he personally trained thousands of individuals and therapists in this approach, enriching the lives of hundreds of thousands worldwide. He was a highly popular divorce therapist, author, and teacher, and a Clinical Member of the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. His "Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale" is an internationally recognized measure of adjustment to the ending of a love relationship. Bruce grew up on a family farm in Iowa, was the first in his family to earn a college degree, and went on to a doctorate from the University of Northern Colorado in human development. His dissertation research focused on the development of the Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale. Bruce's widow, Nina Hart, is co-author with Bruce of the popular relationships book, Loving Choices. Nina continues the teaching, training, consulting, and therapy work she and Bruce did together for more than fifteen years.

Forward
By Virginia M. Satir

Introduction to the Third Edition

Chapter 1 The Rebuilding Blocks

Chapter 2 Denial
"I Can't Believe This is Happening to Me"

Chapter 3 Fear
"I Have Lots of It"

Chapter 4 Adaptation
"But It Worked When I Was A Kid!"

Chapter 5 Loneliness
"I've Never Felt So Alone"

Chapter 6 Friendship
"Where Has Everybody Gone?"

Chapter 7 Guilt/Rejection
Dumpers 1, Dumpees 0

Chapter 8 Grief
"There's This Terrible Feeling of Loss"

Chapter 9 Anger
"Damn the S.O.B.!"

Chapter 10 Letting Go
Disentangling is Hard to Do

Chapter 11 Self-Worth
"Maybe I'm Not So Bad After All!"

Chapter 12 Transition
"I'm Waking Up and Putting Away My Leftovers"

Chapter 13 Openness
"I've Been Hiding Behind a Mask"

Chapter 14 Love
"Could Somebody Really Care for Me?"

Chapter 15 Trust
"My Love-Wound is Beginning to Heal"

Chapter 16 Relatedness
"Growing Relationships Help Me Rebuild"

Chapter 17 Sexuality
"I'm Interested, but I'm Scared"

Chapter 18 Singleness
"You Mean It's Okay?"

Chapter 19 Purpose
"I Have Goals for the Future Now"

Chapter 20 Freedom
From Chrysalis to Butterfly

Appendix A
Kids Are Tougher Than You Think
The Rebuilding Blocks Process for Children

Appendix B
The Healing Separation
An Alternative to Divorce

Appendix C
Healing Separation Agreement Form

Bibliography

Index